The homey BC asked me on the forum about the future of the game.
Game is moving online. I’ve touched on it here, and on the forum.
Let’s define game for the purpose of this post first.
Q. What is game?
A. It is what you say and do to make a connection with a girl
There are 5 main environments that we play in
Night Game – usually at night,, marked by high density, lowered inhibitions, music, alcohol, and generally more social – though social through a filter. Concerts and festivals fit into day game, because the real constraints of socialization and chance for lowered inhibitions are greater than normal.
Day Game – a girl is going about her daily business, not necessarily interested in socializing.
Social Circle Game – people you already know, and their friends. This is how you’re supposed to meet, but has the highest probability of blow back.
Online Game – the new night game, but without the implicit social contract of decency.
World Game – when you go to a new country and you come at the dating environment with mostly your natural attractiveness in a basic animal sense.
What am I most experienced in
In descending order
- Social circle
I think Day Game and Social Circle game are relatively stable. What guys do now in those environments, worked in the 90’s and will probably work to the same degree 20 years from now.
What is changing?
Night game – Industry wide, there are less bars and clubs. This means that a new player has less opportunities to get high density practice. Veteran players have less places to go.
You’re seeing folks not going out regularly to small events, but big spikes in “viral” events. The need to socialize is now met somewhat through their own social circles, and through “attention whoring”. Dating sites have replaced candy crush as a hobby for some chicks.
World Game – World game changes as westerners go to new places and the girls get over the novelty of foreign guys. Places like Europe, South America, and Asia have been “gold mines” – but Western European guys on holiday are ruining Eastern Europe for Western Guys, and a general change in politics have made things more difficult for players of color. None of this is insurmountable, but pretty much everyone agrees that it was easier 10 years ago, and 20 years ago.
With those out of the way, what I’m seeing is the market move from night game to online game.
Night game is my bread and butter. The music, the smoke, the chaos, the predictability, the locking down of venues, tightening of logistics…. And the more you do night game, the more the night life seeps into your circle of friends – thus social circle.
Clubs are closing and girls are going out less. Instead of loud, smoky, noisy night clubs full of “losers” – they’re finding all the attention they need online.
As an old man, this is straight odd to me.
Nowadays, girls are more willing to meet strange men sight unseen. From a straight up safety perspective, she can do all the vetting she wants, it’s far easier to meet up with a guy that’s socially maladjusted than to make the face to face decision whether to continue a conversation at a bar.
In economic terms, this basically reduces some of the upfront costs of dating for both parties. She no longer has to get dressed and look good 2-3 nights a week, she can take one really great set of photos (something she already likes doing), make up, photoshop, special angles…and get far more attention from a vast range of men.
So her box is flooded.
For a guy, we can send hundreds of low investment pokes/likes/swipes – and get in far more “approaches” that way. At a club, you really only have 4 hours and X # of girls. The only comparable thing to the online experience is some EDM festival or a mega club in Vegas.
But overall the medium of the internet constrains a man’s typical options.
Going back to the working definition of game, what you say and do.
In a passive sense, you can make yourself look better. Not just work out, eat right, and dress better – but use the camera the same way that she does. Indeed, what a lot of players have found is that they use the camera, the pics, to tell a story more than just showcase the guns.
That’s the passive part of the game.
Online, all you can do is send messages – primarily words, emojis, pics and memes. Timing your messages by time of day, slow responses, and radio silence round out the arsenal.
By contrast, an offline player has
- Eye contact
- Body language
- Third parties to play off of
- Music, lighting, smoke, social proof, pre selection
These are all different ways into her mind that assist you in putting your best foot forward. And all of this you can engineer real time. You only get muted forms of these things online.
Let’s assume you’re like a lot of guys. You actually get the meet based on what you do on a dating site.
When you meet her in person, you still have to use this in person game to complete the spell. So with night game on a decline, the ability to get those reference experiences (like YaReally would say) has declined.
Of course, all is not lost. To Be Continued in 589