East Indian Archie Redux

I really try to stay away from red meat for red pill guys. There are much better sources for masculine outrage. But sometimes it’s just too tempting.

Aziz Ansari is one such character

I’m Happy To Be Here

So to recap, Aziz Ansari was “Woke Bae #1”. He embodied everything that modern women say the want via the media. And then he had his scandal. To recap

  • He was a Celeb doing Celeb things at a Celeb party.
  • Random groupie with her date makes a move on him
  • He doesn’t give her the time of day
  • He realizes that he’s looking at a freebie
  • Environmental opener and quick number exchange
  • They meet up for a bit of din din
  • He orders white wine for her, she prefers red.
  • Back to his crib, and things start to go down
  • Clothes come off, some things happen, but Aziz puts his foot on the gas and throws three fingers down the chick’s throat
  • She leaves
  • She then writes cryptic tweets and anonymous comments to start the rumor mill about him.
  • Then not getting enough attention, some random mag publishes her account.
  • Aziz becomes a pariah the same time that Weinstein is getting exposed and Cosby going through his. (To an extent, what Aziz did was conflated with Weinstein’s casting couch and Cosby’s roofie moves.)

What’s interesting is that the behavior is not considered sexual assault, but it’s not clear what is wrong exactly, except that they weren’t on the same page sexually. Well The Press/Twitter doesn’t really make it clear what’s wrong, and since nobody with game is credible…

So he goes on hiatus and tries to let things burn out. Like your man Louis CK – who’s crime was asking for permission and then jacking off in front of chicks. Dave Chappelle speaking on the matter.

But now your boy is back. Most of the reports have focused on him NOT saying a Brahma-damn thing about the incident. Until now.

Aziz Ansari says he hopes he’s “become a better person” since being accused of sexual misconduct


Really my G? A better person?

The real problem around the Aziz story is that America/The West doesn’t want to have a frank discussion about sex. Those of us that have been out her for a while recognize that the most important communication between potential partners is SUB-COMMUNICATED.

Furthermore, changing the non-verbal to the verbal often kills this fragile thing called romance, particularly on the female side. She doesn’t want to know the details of how the sausage is made, she just wants the damn hotdog.

Voicing every thing about the date is a known problem. A lot of clueless guys like to get a meta-commentary of the date. A lot of newb players like to talk about pickup with girls that they’re trying to pick up. We also know that women prefer some mystery, and in the long term, once she thinks she has you figured out, the novelty is gone, and she gets less attracted.

Traditionally, escalation is handled tacitly. The guy makes a LONG series of incremental moves from the very beginning of his interaction with a partner. I been saying for years that so-called Last Minute Resistance starts in the first minute.

Last Minute Resistance starts when you’re putting on your cologne before you go out. It starts with whether you’re getting enough sleep, eating correctly, staying fit. I don’t mean this in the new age player sort of way that you hear in both PUA and Red Pill Circles. I mean that girls consciously and subconsciously pick up on your smell, your body, and your body language. Most of the things gurus talk about these days have actual practical implication – though the average guy in this community would not put that together.

But back to Aziz. He thought this chick was a lock and did not pay attention to her language or her body language the entire date. When it came to for some action..

He was trying to escalate instead of building trust, rapport, and comfort. That could have been his wife (or at least a solid friend with benefits) if he actually did what the girl was sub-communicating the entire time.

Now a big part of the media brouhaha is that the chick basically said that Aziz wasn’t reading her. She was actually being very real about how to pick her up, pull her, put her into bed. It was quite a refreshing read at the time to be honest. The media on the other hand, because it doesn’t want to really discuss how people hook up, was able to find the dumb ass tweets from people saying “She should have said something” and “He needs to be in jail” etc.

Everyone is in denial.

I think I made that point in the earlier post. But Aziz doesn’t seem to have learned his lesson.

If you hold yourself out as “holy”, all you can do is fall from grace. But if you start as the villain, the social narrative allows you to become the hero.

Steven Tyler (lead singer of rock band Aerosmith) has known issues with women. But he got mostly praise when he opened a shelter for abused women.

Aziz? C’mon bro. Embrace the dark side, don’t just be a victim.

Most Common Scenarios

Rank the following in difficulty for yourself, and for a beginner

  1. Night Game, Cold Approach, Same Night Loving
  2. Night Game, Cold Approach, That Leads to a Date
  3. Day Game, Cold Approach, Same Day Loving
  4. Day Game, Cold Approach, That Leads to a Date
  5. Weak Ties Social Circle (Think meet up, gym), Warm Approach, to SNL/SDL
  6. Online Dating that leads to a First Meet loving
  7. Online Dating that leads to a Date

I find that men learning social skills gravitate towards the list in reverse order. And they also go down two well known dead ends

1. Strong Ties Social Circle (coworkers and class mates)

2.Social Media Direct Messages.


Patrice O’Neal vs Eric Weber

I’ve never heard this before. But Eric Weber wrote “How to Pick Up Girls”. If you’ve read Neil Strauss’ The Game – Style’s plan was to meet all the gurus, learn all of their skills, and then take over the world. So this was reading books, going to seminars and conventions, taking bootcamps, and finally participating in the adventure with Mystery. Eric Weber may have been his white whale. He didn’t meet him until after his journey.

Starts @ 8:34

They call him a nerd, but he Patrice O’Neal doesn’t agree with tone of the Eric. (but it’s from 1975 – pre AIDS, pre stalking laws, pre restraining orders – per Patrice O’Neal)

Eric says, as part of how to do a street pick up, “You’ve got to be cool”

Patrice says there’s this balance between confidence and humble. But the key game point that I want to mention happens around the ~14:00 minute mark.

Patrice – “She wants to be a ho..adventurous. [Ed. Edited for posterity] “Long as they feel like it’s not their fault, that they went home, went to the hotel… You have to make it feel like someone else”

So @ 15:59 Patrice goes out to the street with a microphone and attempts to run some of these Weber lines. The pick up is hilarious. (And stay on for Dane Cook’s take on it)

-Archie

Dating an Ugly Girl


The jokes write themselves. Internet pretty boy meets a girl online with no pics. Good body, but bad face and smell. He doesn’t hesitate to bang, but now he’s out in public with a chick that he doesn’t like.

So the typical player advice applies, he has to man up and drop the chick.

The question is really why does a self-described good looking guy fall into this trap?

No game.

-Archie

Yes Ladder

Old School tech, that you probably aren’t using. This is from one of my favorite shows ever, Yes Minister/Yes, Prime Minister.

Should start @ 20:50.

R Kelly, Nicki, and Bezos

Talking about current events seems like such a cheap move, but there are some game lessons. Lemme throw some red meat to the wolves.

Kellz

“We never saw the signs”

Kellz has been found guilty of all sorts of things in the court of public opinion. But Him, OJ, MJ and Jay Z were found not guilty in an actual court. I digress.

People are really in their feelings about Kellz. Nobody would ever malign WIA by saying he’s a fan of R&B. It’s not interesting to note that most of R Kelly’s initial fan base was women, but it is noteworthy that his primary fanbase after the criminal trial is primarily women.

Weinstein was trying to use his position to bang the unsuspecting. Cosby straight up drugged chicks. Maybe some were down with that sort of activity, but once you go unconscious – you’re ability to consent ends.

Kellz though? He was (allegedly) targeting chicks at high schools and McDonald’s. That’s some straight predatory behavior if true. Post Trial is where parents were offering up their daughters so they could have a shot at a career.

So let’s recap, 1) most of his current supporters are women, 2) the people who sacrificed their daughters were parents.

In the current blacklash, who’s getting the most umbrage? Is it the female base of Kelly’s wealth? The parents who didn’t know any better?

No, it’s people like Drake, Toure, and Charlemagne the God. 3 arguable allies to the movement. Folks that didn’t want to appear in the documentary against Kellz and had nothing to do with Kellz are feeling the heat.

So with respect to the game, what can you learn. The Kellz topic is not something I’d bring up while trying to bust my raps for a chick. It’s the wrong kind of chick crack. (I was just at Shake Shack listening to some woke daughter jawboning her father about this)

In terms of what to learn from Kelly – I’m not really one to push dark side techniques. But if you read the accounts, it reads like a girlfriend asking you to pet her dog, put some food in the doggie bowl, to ultimately could you watch my dog while I have some guy come over to stay the weekend.

Nicki and Her New Guy

I’m sure I mentioned this someplace else, but the general understanding of The Games that Men and Women play is that the woman tries to get the best, and the man tries to get the most. A man will cheat opportunistically, whereas a woman never cheats – she moves up and/or gets her needs filled. Cheating doesn’t exist per the hypergamous mindset.

Uh. sure.

But in this case, Nicki Minaj is probably one of the top/most successful/richest rappers currently relevant today. She’s being outshone by Cardi B, but that’s neither her nor there.

She shocked the world by essentially just dating some random dude (who has a few charges to his name). He’s not a rapper, ceo, or even some drug dealing boss. He’s just some random dude from Queens. Judging by his ex, I would gladly take a class to study under a master.

A girl like Nicki, who has everything material that she could ever want, her only real options for dating/long term relationships is an equal of a superior. Just go through the list of her peers and superiors. Those are her options as a 36 year old.

And speaking of a chick with too much money, but not a lot of real relationship options

Bezos

MacKenzie Bezos is about to cash in to the tune of 67 billion dollars, making her the 5th richest person in the world. She ain’t typed a line of code in her life. She didn’t even help him write the business plan.

Mrs Bezos told Vogue in 2013: “I have no business sense whatsoever, but I saw how excited he was.”

She faces the Nicki Minaj/Oprah Winfrey problem too. What about Jeff Beezy though?

He was a hedge fund guy, so there’s no doubt that he knew about real money. The old saw about not getting married. Could he have created an arrangement with Mackenzie? Who knows. But based on the press’s reports of his “sexting”…he doesn’t look like he had the stones.

-Archie

Make Charts

There are a lot of issues in teaching game. The sort of people attracted to this material, run the gamut from great to goofy. Even the goofy guys figure it out.

A bigger issue is that society basically programs people to consume, to vote, to work, but not to produce, run for office, or to get workers. Schools, Media, Family, Culture, teaches us to be passive, to be robots.

And this is a perfect example of that. Want to save democracy? Try teaching kids to read charts. The reporter (and possibly the editor and the organization as a whole) probably doesn’t have the vision to understand the social value of teaching people to consume versus teaching people to produce.

If you ever wonder why universities in lesser developed countries are always seeming to spark revolutions – it’s because The State isn’t strong enough to have seduced them from an early age into non-action. In the West, we basically channel capable people into the system. *Looks around cubicle as I pen this on my smartphone, because I can’t use the work pc for personal business* In other places, they are painfully aware that the jig is up.

I’ve said before, the guys that have the hardest time learning game, are the good students. Aside from people that have to be spoon fed answers and reasons, there are tons more that can’t even really fathom their own social programming – and don’t realize when the programming kicks in, and when they

I don’t want to get too deep into what is probably driving this particular article – but it’s that old trope of the “low information voter”. People make the decisions they make because they don’t have enough information. That’s type of thinking is part of the Tyranny of the Learned. It’s why Wall Street Quants that work for Hedge Funds, don’t run Hedge Funds. Why Silicon Valley Developers struggle on 6 figure salaries, while their managers have money to do some angel investing of their own.

As to this chart, and how society indoctrinates you to become passive – children should be taught how to make a chart that deceives people.

When you look at the curriculum of the best and most prestigious schools – they often teach a lot of ancient history. John Taylor Gatto (RIP) says that elite education is about 1 thing.

The management of crowds.

While most red pill mouth breather sites are all Marcus Aurelius, and learning to deal with suffering with a stiff upper lip – or some Zen bullshit where you learn to NOT DESIRE so you can never hurt from deprivation – Game is usually more external. They want you to think that’s it’s about control of yourself. By controlling yourself….you can get the girl. Self Control and Self Denial are just one half of the puzzle. Not blurting out the same bullshit that you normally blurt out, controlling your breathing, channeling your flight response into action. But Game is largely about social control.



She’s on Instagram All the Time!

So the question is how do you deal with it?

Noir asked this question on the thread – when screening girls for a move up the roster, what do you do with the following?

  • Chick that’s always on – posting, commenting, and reacting
  • Chick that checks all the time – post sometimes, keeping track.
  • Chick that reads
  • The rare chick that is not on social media

The TL DR is that you have to adapt to the times and be willing to lose chicks to the whims of the internet crowd. Can’t put the milk back into the carton. Pandora’s box is open.

The red pill alpha mouth breather solution is –

  1. You check your girl – tell her what’s up.
  2. If she doesn’t comply, you drop her. That’s it.

I don’t know where these dudes live, but you can’t really run a relationship like that. You can attempt to lay down the law, but she will just go behind your back. And if you’re always threatening to bounce and don’t, she loses respect. If you bounce, you lose the girl. If you bounce, and she comes crawling back – she’s on eggshells at first, but eventually the addict has a relapse. This battle with her iPhone is one that you are going to lose.

There is no player solution here.

A good pimp doesn’t string his stable out on drugs. Because the draw of the drug is greater than the draw of his love and guidance. And that’s what you’re dealing with, a digital drug.

A lot can be said for the problems of pornography addiction, but internet addiction is far worse and far more pervasive. That glass slab in her hands delivers unpredictable dopamine hits. And the addiction part is not the hit, but the anticipation of the hit. That’s why there is endless scroll.

So what motivates her underlying behavior? The hit she’s getting is social response.

This need for social response, isn’t something new to pick up, but it’s gone exponential at this point.

Whenever you date a girl, casually or seriously, you’re dating her entire social network. What goes on between the sheets is between you, her, and her close friends. Any relationship issue you have (her said and unsaid expectations not being met) she’s going to go her brain trust about. You haven’t lived until you find out her period is late from a text that her mother sends to you. (oh, was that just me? fuck y’all then)

That type of “chatter” was first enabled with the telephone and then the cellphone.

Now, the internet is a part of your relationship. Obviously she’s always yapping about the relationship to her friends. But also her family, other guys, and followers. Back in the day, she was more of herself. She might have been showing off a little for her friends, but it was reasonable.

Nowadays what constitutes “self” includes this curated presentation of self to a somewhat anonymous audience. She cares very much what these internet strangers have to say about her life with you.

And that’s a problem. It’s not one that you can solve, and it’s not one that normal girl can solve either.

Happy 2019!

Don’t Touch Me

Factors

  • Attractive Woman
  • Tight Dress
  • Night Club
  • Brazil – one of the most macho cultures on earth

What do you think is going to happen?

Remind you of the white girl with the big booty strolling through Harlem (and I guess the rest of NYC)?

Food for Thought

-Archie

 

 

Sixty Percent Done Maybe

I haven’t been posting as much as I would like.  But this is where I am in terms of the book.  I have to rewrite a chapter on openers, because I lost it over a power outage, but that was only 12 pages.  It’s about ~700 pages in a word doc.

I’ve been distilling knowledge from the last 7 of the 8 years i’ve been online into the book.  I figure the rough draft shall be done by shortly and I’ll edit and refine.

Then I have to slim the book down so you guys can get the juice and some understanding, and just have the rest as additional volumes.

-ArchMaester