My girl is acting up

If my girl starts acting up, then i’ll take her friend

Q. Hey Archie, my girl had a bad day, what should I do?

A.

I’ve faced your situation many a time. After been burned, after getting drained myself I’ve changed my outlook. I than an Eastern European taxi driver that i met last year.

If *her* bad day is forcing you into a situation where you have to manage her emotions by either listening to her bitch and holding your tongue, or banging her –she’s the one in control. She has “hand”.  She has the more powerful frame than yours.

This is a bad situation.

The main idea within a relationship for a man/player is NOT

“How can I keep her around?”

but rather

“What is she doing to hold my interest?”
“What is she doing right now to keep ME around?”

If she’s actively losing your interest, or causing you drama – then you need to initiate a sequence

  1.  Get her attention
  2. “You’re not constructively solving your problem”
  3. Let her recognize she’s being a bitch or negative or annoying
  4. If she persists, either make her leave, or you leave
  5. Say to her, I’ll contact you when you feel better
  6. Then, *turn off your phone*

This is not about manipulating her, it’s about preserving *yourself* and your own sanity.

When someone gets into this negative spiral, and they’re making you solve their problem it’s abuse. Leave.

I don’t know if the girl is toxic, or she’s codependent or any of that daytime talk show pop psychology stuff – but now I recognize that behavior as being corrosive.

She’s going to blow up your phone, let her. You already told her what she was doing wrong

-Archie

*Also, the game is rarely about manipulating the girl. It is about giving her options, options she didn’t consider.

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