She wants to Move up the Roster

Not going to be a full on break down, but here are some guidelines.

1) Never give a chick roster status if she has nothing to do on a Friday. Insist she keep her male friends, and social engagements

2) Don’t spend more than 1 day per week together. And you can’t see her without sex.

3) Avoid all activity that goes beyond courtesy and into boyfriend stuff. Take her to breakfast after, not dinner before.

That should keep the ball rolling.  Both of you having fun.

But eventually…if you’re the sort of guy that swept her off of her feet, and then keeps her on her toes – she’s going to develop feelings.

4) She asks so what are we?

You don’t like what we have?
Babe, I’m not trying to block your blessings.
You need a man?
What kind of guy are you looking for?

Basically make it clear you’re not the guy for her.

She might insist on you though.  Might not take no for an answer.

You have to be honest with yourself.  Are you really cutting for this chick, or are you stringing her along.  (By stringing, you’re promising a future that you know you will not deliver)

If you’re not, the next part is putting a price on her having more access to you.

When she worms her way into an extra day per week, a lot of time, no more time for your other chicks – DANGER WILL ROBINSON.

So here’s how I usually come at a chick that’s insisting on being in the passenger seat

I’ve been locked down before, and it never worked out. Chicks kept bringing me their problems, chicks not knowing how to make themselves useful in my life…

To say any of this, the player needs to know what he wants and that that she’s not it.  Said it before, will say it over and over.  If you can’t break hearts, you can’t do this.  It’s not even about hurting her, but more about keeping sane.

Now the chick will usually just bounce, playing on the fact that you’re gonna come after her.  RESIST.

The next move in the playbook is for her to date other guys AND flaunt it in your face.  RESIST.

Aren’t you hurting the chick by not submitting to her demands? (LOL, by the way I ask it, of course not)

The player realizes that this state of agony for her is also part of her ecstasy. Though it might not look like it, she is getting something from you not giving her what she “wants”.

Why do girls listen to sad songs, watch romantic movies, soap operas, gossip, mischief and intrigue, like to have a good cry every now and then…

Why do we, as men, have such a problem giving these chicks what they clearly want?

It’s because we don’t want what they want, so we can’t fathom giving it to them.  This is why it’s hard to logic your way into some romance.  If man could make sense of woman, there would be no need for game.   But the average girl just has a different set of criteria and a different way of going about it.

So when a chick wants to jump from booty calls to regular rotation, letting her convince you is part of her pleasure. Even if it doesn’t look like it to masculine eyes. If you’re fucking her,, chances are high 10 other guys want to fuck her.

The final piece is that just like you led her to bed, you’ve got to push her away if she’s exhibiting harmful behavior. A chick can and will fixate on you, to her detriment, despite what you’ve told her, despite what you’ve agreed upon.  That’s when you have to be an adult and cut her off.   It’s not easy for you, won’t be for her – but dependence is not sexy.

-Archie