The practical value of watching this show is that you have conversation fodder for dealing with black women and chicks that follow urban culture.
The simple story is that a twenty something fabulous black couple has been dating for a while. The boyfriend is not working a 9-5 job, but is instead working on an app. She comes home and he’s playing video games on her birthday which he forgot. The girlfriend is getting restless and she is mulling over cheating. He gets his act together (works a job @ Best Buy and then gets a job at a start up).
And after he gets his act together she finds herself hanging out with a guy from her past and ends up cheating on him. Boyfriend finds out, leaves girlfriend. In what we think is going to be a reconciliation between the two –
The girlfriend comes back to their apartment to find all his stuff cleaned out except the Best Buy polo.
The next shot is of the former boyfriend smanging the hell out of a cute cashier that did recognize his worth.
So the girl argument from season 1 is that it was okay understandable for the Girlfriend to cheat because the Boyfriend wasn’t taking care of the homefront. Keep in mind, he was paying the bills, he had his own car, and he was working on his business. The fact that the business wasn’t going anywhere – made him understandably depressed. We don’t know what was going on with the App and we don’t know how Issa tried to
nag encourage him to get on his hustle. The women that watch this show were also mad that the Boyfriend did get with the girl who was giving him some attention. They were especially mad at the fact that boyfriend was HITTING IT EXTRA HARD LIKE A MAN POSSESSED.
The guy argument – open and shut case. Missing a b-day is okay, and the chick over-reacted to one particular incident. He more than made up for it by getting a job, getting a better job, and then taking the girl ring shopping. The girlfriend betrayed him after he had done everything to make her happy.
That’s the plot of season 1. Season 2 just started, and we’re seeing the fall out.
This is great conversation if you’re dealing with black women 21-35.
But I don’t bring this to you guys because you need more pop culture openers. I bring it to you because of one of the keys in Girlfriend’s malaise is an important thing to notice about chicks in general.
The traditional analysis from chicks is that after 3-4 years the Boyfriend needed to
- Get his Financial Act Together
- Propose Marriage
Issa stepping out on him is not surprising.
The Manosphere analysis would probably be something along the lines of
- He needed to be “more Alpha” and keep his girl in check.
- He needed to Instill Dread, so she would not want to leave his side
The player analysis is this.
- His mood affected her mood. And if he’s on a downswing, that pulls her down.
- Hardcore, wall climbing, leg shaking #$%ing is an essential part of keeping the chick emotionally satisfied.
#2 is obvious. No matter how you feel about a chick in a long term relationship, you’re obligated to put it down. If you don’t have a job – you still have a job to do.
But #1 is the key insight. When you’re down – she’s down. When you’re up, she’s up. When you’re happy – she’s happy. But you can’t make her happy by doing things for her.
Here’s Patrice on the subject
So that’s one of the keys. But let’s dig a bit deeper.
Why does she become unhappy and restless when you are unhappy and restless?
Because she often pings off of others to PUMP HER OWN EMOTIONAL STATE.
When you see a 1 group of girls meet up with other girlfriends – they SQUEE – and that gets them hype. I see it all the time at the club.
At work – chicks are constantly playing good music, podcasts, changing their hair, looking in the mirror, eating – all sorts of stuff to keep their state pumped.
We see that when we go out. We notice that in chicks that we deal with.
In the long term situation – we often forget that. And that was Lawrence’s crime. He didn’t monitor his own emotional state in order to keep this chick inline.
So in the LTR situation – that’s part of what you need to do – if you’ve decided to take the preventative route to keeping your relationship going. (Playing defense).
In a pull situation – your energy needs to be higher at the beginning, and then go to an “end game” vibe at the end. Because she pings off of you to know how to feel.