- When I think of game, my mind goes to a bar or club. I’m thinking of where to go to tonight, and what are my “after party” options.
My game is essentially
- Bar/club hop
- Connect with a chick
- Get her out of the venue to a new venue
- Get her back to my place to read the Bible. (this is a Family blog!)
I’m basically all about night game. Night game means you’ve got girl density and girl propensity. Lots of chicks, and lots of them down to party. Now do they necessarily want to party with me? That’s what game is for.
That being said, there are tons of opportunities to make connections outside of these “socially sanctioned times and places to socialize”.
As an alternative to bars and dance clubs, there are “softer” events.
Down tempo night game stuff like – Restaurant Bars, Whisky/Wine Tastings, Museums, Art Shows – it’s pretty much night game, but lite. So you have the propensity to socialize, but the crowd is older and usually more laid back.
A step up from that is street game in the party district.
In these areas, girls are open to talking to random dudes on the street. The infamous talk to a chick waiting for an Uber, and then jump in the car with her is sort of in this vein. (or convince random Uber Pool user to go with you instead of going to whatever lame event they’re going to)
For hardcore night game guys, there’s usually a pre-party spot where chicks are ramping up for the club, but still have that low key approachability but also propensity to be social.
What day game offers is much more approachability, but not so much propensity for romance.
I talk about this in the book. If you aren’t autistic, you understand that during the day, most people are going about their daily business.
I know that during my morning commute I don’t want to deal with anything. By lunch, I’ll generally more sociable. At the end of the day, I’m dying to deal with people that I choose to deal with.
I’m typical. There are some true extroverts out there that get a charge from dealing with strangers – but that is not the norm.
As a side note, the best way to do a morning approach during the work rush is to take advantage of the scene and use an environmental opener.
Taking the morning rush out of the equation, the rest of the day is usually more social for everyone.
And that’s what Day Game offers new guys. Girls are, oddly, more willing to talk to random guys during the day. That’s part of modern life, talking to strangers as you go about your day.
But if you’re in anyway sane – you know that these little chats are anything but conversations.
- Excuse me
- When’s the train coming
- I believe you’ve stolen my purse
The premise of day game is that you can start a “man-to-woman” conversation during the day as she goes about her business. This basically slams you into the “propensity” problem.
Sure you can flirt – you can push and pull – you can have your best stories, your sharpest jokes – but the chick is like
DUDE WRAP IT UP B, I GOT TO GO BACK TO WORK.
So day game in real life for guys with regular schedules, who aren’t living on passive income, or who’s livelihood his pick up – the interaction has to be something that’s short and sweet that either leads to
- A nearby Instadate
- A solid #
If you’re running mall game, day time street game in a place with a lot of people, on the weekend – the “formal” Instadate is a possibility.
So there are two plays here.
The new school play – especially for you young cats – Social Media Close. I’m a little long in the tooth to be posing with Tigers in Thailand or Surfing in Bali. You young dudes? *by young I mean you can pass for less than 35* Get that chicks Insta/Twitter/Facebook. And then follow one of them new gurus on how to create a Fear of Missing Out lifestyle for this chick.
But I’m old school
The old school idea is to make a big emotional impact on the girl – within that 300 seconds – something pushes her to “keep in touch with you”
I broke it down on the thread for the homie Basket Bounce, but I’ll touch on it here as well.
- This is the typical day game set up
- You’re going about your day as usual.
- You see the chick, looking nice.
- Approach from the proper angle
- Use your opener
- Push and Pull to give her that Man to Woman Vibe
- Get her logistics and know yours cold
So where a lot of guys try to go romance or try to get “straight to the point” or make her laugh and leave on a high note – what the player goes for is something that will leave a “stain on her brain” as my my Guru used to say
The people we meet and remember – sometimes do something incredible themselves – but more often they say things to us – that stick in our minds.
You guys know I love a good cold read, a good Barnum Statement… That’s why part of your media diet should include anything mystical/girly/astrological. Chicks love “personality” quizzes – because it tells them about their favorite subject – themselves.
Look at the latest women centered magazine next time you’re picking up your ground turkey and broccoli (eat clean Bro!).
That’s your key insight. Whatever is on the cover of a gossip rag or Cosmo. Those people have keyed in on what makes women BUY. Use their knowledge.
Here’s a free one, “I bet sometimes you’re so sure of yourself, but a lot of the time, you doubt yourself”
A statement like that begs for more analysis. And that’s the HOOK. She’s not gonna think about how dreamy you are when you leave – but she will think about HERSELF and what you said about her, when you’re no longer in her presence.
- Like I said on the board
- Strong emotional read
- Motion to leave
- Don’t go
- It’s cool, I don’t even know your name.
Let her invest by moving first, getting your name, giving her name, and then pushing her # on you.
If she’s not pushing the # on you – chances are so-so on it being a good #.
She needs a reason to call you, and it can’t be for you to play Pizza Delivery Guy in an iPhone budget “art film”.
Give her a reason.