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[Ed. Clearing out 35 or so unfinished posts.  This particular post came out of a discussion about whether game is for girls that like you or girls that are mean or indifferent. Is game for girls that instantly hate you, or don’t acknowledge your existence.  I think the actual question is more complicated, more nuanced – but I think that of all of these questions.]

Caring is Creepy

So you step up to a chick, respectfully, but definitely with your game tight.  And she like doesn’t want to hear it.

What’s up with that?

The truth is, most women do not want to meet anyone new (check out her Social Media – she already has plenty of “friends”)

Unless he ticks off the socially approved boxes or hits her invisible Achilles Heels (size 7) – she’s not that interested in some random guy.

How does she want?

She wants to meet someone that she’s been lusting after that’s ALREADY in her social circle. (A celebrity is also a good answer here. )

• Guy at work
• Guy in class
• Her pastor
• Her Yoga trainer
• Guy in her corresponding fraternity to her sorority

Why?

Because he’s vetted.  She “knows” what he’s about.  A known quantity helps with her long term interests, but she’s probably had a chance to wonder “if” and fantasize about him.

The other thing about preferring guys in her social circle is that other girls (that she knows and respect/hate) want him. Thus she wants him partly because they want him.  But she also wants to be better than “all those other bitches”.  The Preacher’s Wife Dynamic.

“He chose me, and I rule all of you bitches through him.”

I’ve said this before, a lot of the social circle game isn’t about her personal pleasure, but causing pain to others.  Real pain sometimes, but more often imagined.  Or perhaps I’ve dated too many hot chicks who like to lord it over (or is that lady?) others.

I recently was chatting with a chick and talking about fashion, style and make up.  [Because that’s the kind of conversation I have with a chick who’s all looks]  She was saying that she was gonna pay someone to “do her eyes”.

The chick was cute or whatever, but then I asked her this.

Archie – “So you’re gonna spend 50 bucks for a professional to do your makeup for 1 event, right?

So what’s your return on investment?”

Thinking to myself some breast implants or some butt shots literally pay for themselves.  Most guys are more willing to spend on a chick if her body is RIGHT. What could she possibly get monetarily from being able to bat her full eyelashes at some dude.

“I get to slay”

Slay?  Da fuck?  I get to look good, and feel like I look better than everyone else.  All Eyez on Me

https://youtu.be/05PCmqjIeNE

Think about that. That’s what you’re dealing with.  To understand the “slay” mentality, you have to realize in her world – we (men) aren’t really that important.  What is important is her social standing with WOMEN.  Men? Who cares?

Because for an attractive woman, IT SEEMS like she can have a man/boyfriend at any point in her life.  It’s as complicated as opening Facebook.

Now the actual reality of finding a guy that meets her conscious criteria as well as the guy who knows how to meet her unconscious criteria is an entirely different issue – one that she doesn’t think about.

She just wants to slay.

She wants to “slay” because she’s in some sort of existential competition with other women, AND with an image in her mind.  Indeed, it’s less and less about the other women for most part – and more about this internal feeling.

With this self-centered/ego-centric  “slay mentality in mind” – where we are mere pawns in her game, where she’s striving for this unreachable goal – how do we adapt?

Game.

Game isn’t for the chick that is digging you and your look and feels good around you…. (See how I brought this back to the topic.  I let you understand a bit of the mentality of these chicks, and we use that to work on philosophy, then strategy, and finally tactics)

The short game is 3 basic phases.

Phase 1 – Getting her attention and actively doing something that attracts her to you

Phase 2 – Building trust, comfort, and rapport – because at this point, she’s in to your look, what you have to say, and probably 2 of 10 in terms of ready for “romance”.

Phase 3 – Is when you’re back at your place, and she’s ready to read the Bible.

The real juice is between getting her attention and putting her in a position where she’s seeking your approval and validation.  That’s the whole point of this blog, so i’ll only mention it once in this post.

So the question often is, when I step up to a chick – and before I get a word out, I can tell by her body language, that she wanted me to talk to her – do I have to do all this “stuff”?

Or more succinctly,

If she looks like she’s in to me,do I need to use game? 

And by game, most guys getting into this, think special openers, gimmicks, going direct..yadda yadda yadda.  For us vets, game is not just a way of life, we’ve fully internalized the principles to the point where we don’t think about it.

But to guys starting to wrap their heads around this thing, It’s an honest and open question.

So the answer is – Not really.

Phase 1 – The “Attention and Attraction” phase of Game is PRIMARILY for chicks that are rude to you, mean, or worse yet INDIFFERENT.

Before you can get her to share a hot fudge sundae with you, she’s has to be aware that you’re around – that means getting her attention.  And after you break into her mind space (because sure as shit wasn’t thinking about YOU – neck roll) – now you have to get a somewhat hostile stranger to be less hostile and open to communicating.

But if a girl is feeling you from jump, instead of going heavy with the attention and ice breaking – you make her invest.  I’ve said it before, having game is not playing games.

Let’s set the stage

• I’m at a happy hour/martini lounge
• It’s not too loud
• Alcohol is flowing
• Girls are sitting with their friends, standing by the bar
• Chatting amongst themselves
• Some folks on the phone

So I roll up on a solo chick with a phone in her face, eyes lit up by the LED.

• I say “Hey” –  which grabs her attention
• Attempt to open the conversation with a jokey cold read – “You’re doing one of two things, Pokemon Go or Tinder”

The reaction I’m looking for is 1) acknowledgment, 2) then somewhat of a smile, 3) a melting of the ice a bit. 4) her to say something that say she wants to play.

What often happens instead.

• Glance up at me
• Look back down at her phone
• No more acknowledgement
• Ignores me until I walk away.

Happens all the time to top players.
A chick’s first line of defense is to pretend you aren’t there.
Especially if you don’t have the look of a guy that she wants.

So what do I do?

I say Hey, AGAIN. And then I launch into a story – basically whatever happened to me that day that I thought was interesting, and that she could comment on and take part in.

If you make it a general practice to explain your day in the most humorous and interesting way possible you can turn a trip to the drug store into an adventure.

Why do I do this? Because attention getting and attraction building stuff is for chicks that are indifferent or hostile.  All the stuff you’ve read from 90’s till now isn’t stuff developed for girls that like the way you look and your vibe.  It’s for chicks that wish you were Jessie Williams.

Now how do I know to keep going?  Why don’t I stop?

I know that most of the time, these chicks aren’t going to swing at the first pitch. And I’m okay with her not being into me from minute 1.

I don’t want to use the “P” words – persistence/perseverance, but my actions move in that direction. I believe in myself. And I also know that it takes people a second to warm up.

Having seen guys with better game than me, I’ve noticed that they get their best results by staying in what I thought were “impossible” situations.

• Super negative/name calling feedback
• Being completely ignored, being indifferent.

Watching this stuff go down with a vet, my social cues sensor was like – YO, THIS IS GETTING MAD AWKWARD.  Pull up player, you bout to hit a Mountain of No.

Until it turns itself around.

Now these guys were never to the point of it being autistic. A real player has the verbal chops and he’s just lightly hammering at a chick until she gives him feedback (positive or negative).

That covers the indifferent, what about the negative?

If you argue with your girlfriend, there are times that she’s so mad, that it becomes comical. You can switch that anger to laughter. So negative feedback is one of those things that are good.

So let’s recap.

“Game” – i.e. all those openers, attention getters, routines are for the angry and indifferent.  If a chick is feeling you from jump – the game you use there is to get her to invest, which we’ve talked about previously.

When met with indifference – you keep going.

When met with anger – you find it amusing – and then convert it to laughter with the chick.

Hmm, makes me think I need to write more on the mechanics of both.

-Archie

I just read this about our new robot overlords.

” In young infants, language builds on basic abilities like perceiving the world visually and physically, acting on motor systems, and understanding other peoples’ goals…

Beyond compiling pure data input, the mind filters, assimilates, and joins new information to memory to create and break patterns, as well as processing information through emotional and social filters.”

Why bring this up at all?  A key to a lot of the game is understanding the motivation and goals of the people around us.  This is where picking up women extends to control over the universe.  If you can discern what is on someone else’s mind by observing their actions, you can stimulate them in that way – and obtain results for yourself.

A lot of The Game is replacing the ideas that you think you understand any given woman’s goals by her actions.   Her actions, typically if you want her, do not really line up with the goals that YOU THINK SHE HAS.  Indeed, her actions don’t often line up with the goals SHE THINKS SHE HAS.   There is logic to what she does – if you understand what her goals are.

Brief Aside – This idea of “logic” also reflects on us Men. Chicks find us as baffling as we find them.  Topic for another time.  The teaser is that we do things to try to get “sex” from her that make no sense to her at all.   Further, there is a layer here where men/individuals have short and long term goals, both conscious and unconscious – that we are trying to align to achieve particular ends.  This may be the ultimate goal of game – to set all of your resources to accomplishment.

So let’s consider this scenario. Guy meets very hot chick on Bumble. Chick says coffee shop date only.

Keep in mind – A chump folds when these cards are dealt. The player plays the other players, not the cards.

Enumerating it..

1. The protagonist  went on the coffee date (against his gut feeling)
2. He goes to the coffee shop and intends to do a walkabout date.
3. But the chick has a “policy” to only go where people are.

Guy agrees, but is planning to turn it into a walkabout date. (Which is the strategy to use, with some caveats. Her behavior stems from earlier bad experiences, so trust must be rapidly developed)

So when he gets there, he attempts to venue change to nearby retail, and chick has a nonsensical policy about not going to places where people aren’t.

She of course doesn’t know her own psychology as most people don’t.

What they think and say they want is not what they actually respond to.

Because of her issues she ruins her own chance at happiness. She’s basically trapped in her frame, like a child scared of the dark but unwilling to use a nightlight. (In my mind the girl needs therapy.)

If you are into frames

– She chose him
– She chose the activity
– She chose to limit the action to the coffee shop

She basically constructed the reality and then used the environment and her will to stop the dude from progressing.  As a defensive move, this is quite smart – and plenty of girls will pat themselves on the back for screening in this way.

The obvious move here for intermediate to advanced players is to bring the “walk” to the coffee shop.  It doesn’t matter if she tries to limit the movement (the ability to get both trust through movement and isolation) – you can use the environment of a coffee shop to your advantage.   That means using group theory and merging sets.  Creating the atmosphere by using third parties to your advantage.

But our guy faces the typical situation.  The chick who’s all business, has a very boring Q & A conversation. We can only imagine the sub-communications between the two.  For you guys keeping score, this horrible environment is actually ideal for you work out guys.  If you can show off your physique in a tasteful way – that should be unnerving to a chick.

For my verbal guys, this is a straight up disqualification time.  “We’re totally not right for each other. *wait for reaction*…build on it”

So going back to the theme of today – of interpreting a chick’s actions to understand her goals.  Why did she set this situation up this way?

She’s gotten him to basically agree to her frame, a frame to protect her.  But that frame also to confines her.

If she did not think he was physically and therefore sexually attractive – he would not have gotten the coffee date in the first place.   But the environment is such that the only way for a guy to surmount her defenses (in her mind at least) is to be such an engaging personality that she loses sense of the world.   This is of course the ultimate goal of every player that focuses on the verbal game.  You almost want your speech to be hypnotic.

Objectively, what is the likelihood that she’s going to meet the Devil in a sportscoat with a pocket square, and get him to reveal his wickedness in a 15 minute conversation over Americano?

She’s wasting her time, even though she doesn’t realize it.  And women have a short time frame to truly operate.  That’s not patriarchy, that’s biology.

When you meet coffee date girl – Part of me wonders how much of her behavior was clinical or idiosyncratic and how much of this is in the realm of normal behavior?  Normal for girls at least.

The girl might be a one off, but the mathematician in me feels like there are particular solutions. This is the tool that you order from Snap On, because they’re the only ones that make it.

What was her goal here?
What did she expect to happen?

Subconsciously she expected magic. She would show up, do nothing, actively work against whatever he was doing AND he’d somehow manage to fix her.

This reminds me of the old chestnut about psychologists and sociopaths.

If a patient says that they’ve seen other doctors, the others haven’t helped, but you seem special.

This is how this situation reads.

This post is a bit sprawling, but the key ideas

1. As humans, from the very beginning, we learn how to interpret the thoughts of others through their actions
2. Game teaches us that our pre-game social programming is very bad at helping us puzzle out a girl’s thoughts and motivations through her actions
3. When a chick limits her own freedom here – the key is not to try and knock on the front door – so to speak.
4. She set up the situation to dislike you (thinking it’s neutral)- because she doesn’t understand herself or men
5. The options are here are to communicate on the level where she really is. Be it with your look, with your sub-communications, or using group game to gain leverage through third parties

-Archie

Debeguiled made a good comment on the last blog .   This is a bit of theory of technique/history of game type of post.   But he made the correct observation that clinical hypnosis tries to achieve the same sort of thing that verbal one-on-one game is going for…sorta.

The idea behind hypnosis is to use language, setting, and ritual to get a patient into a state that is conducive to suggestion.   “You’re getting very sleepy.  Now cluck like a chicken!”

In the game, the sequence is after you meet the chick, you run your attraction material (heavy on disqualifying yourself, heavy on disqualifying her, very much getting her to chase you – or in woman speak – flirting) – then she’s invested and wants to figure out what makes you so different.  You hook her on the conversation, you hook her on the randomness and her inability to pin you down, and then you up the ante and make her do more and more sexual things, in order to get more compliance.

So in essence and in practice, she’s suggestible.

Now in our sequence, after getting her into a cycle of seeking our attention and validation – we switch to trust.  (in Mystery model, attraction -> comfort).

The game is basically won in comfort with a skeptical girl.  You can troll a girl all night and get her to want your validation – but she has to trust you after she’s figured out that your personality is sexually appealing.  So not even the “sweet talker” phase, or the “Lot of Laughs” Lamar – but this guy isn’t a psycho type thing.

So the trust moves

• Break the touch barrier
• Stop touching her before she wants you to stop
• Meet her friends
• Introduce her to your friends
• Interact with 3rd parties
• Move her around the venue
• Stop for a pint of ice cream on the way back to your place, and let her see you talk to staff

You’re a normal guy, I will be safe now and still get to have fun.

Verbally, you’ve got the chick on the couch, she’s attracted, she’s interested – but one of the issues a guy faces is that – she may be attracted, she wants to talk, she’s okay with touch, she’s touching him – but that doesn’t mean they’re going to end up back at his place.   Them boys @ RSD describe this situation is the “sexual hook point”.  Where she’s participating.

But since we’ve been doing this from a different perspective – this is where the pimp game says that you sell her the dream, you put her in a bubble, just me and you, just the two of us.

 

So Debeguiled made the point that putting her in the bubble, getting that level of trust – we’re she thinks of not just her, but as “we”, – that’s approaching the a hypnotic trance.

And the history of PUA online starts in Ericksonian hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) – and basically ways to get people to do things on a subconscious level through. 1) word, 2) setting/environmental engineering, 3) ritual.   When you look back at even the Mystery Method, his end game sequence involves getting the girl to light candles…  It’s not because Mystery is a romantic, but it’s part of a ritual.  And when she puts up resistance, he breaks the spell by blowing out the light.  It’s symbolic – but works on deeper levels.

So yes, I think Debeguiled is right – there’s something to adding elements from hypnosis to your game.  I think the best place is not during the attraction, but during the trust stage.

-Archie

[Ed. This a post that I didn’t finish from last year (got about 35)]

Every sentence I write makes me think about you, the reader.

What do  you need to know to come to the same conclusion that I do?

So I have to keep digging deeper to find examples that will click in your mind.

But that’s game.  I’m trying to communicate, express myself, and persuade.  I know from experience (and from work, lol), that breaking down an argument logically is one of the least effective ways to put somebody on your side.

In my process of writing a small game “pamphlet” for you guys to use is the same thing that goes on when you build an opener.

So in the last few weeks, I’ve come across someone else’s opener and modified it, and then also taken my reaction to someone else’s story and turn that into an opener.

The Swipe

I straight jacked this from a guy giving day game coaching sessions, and modified it to what I know about a girl’s social reality.

So a guy is at the mall, he’s walking through courtyard.  He sees a girl he likes.

Now analyzing the reasoning behind the steps.

Step #2 – You have to come at a girl head to head to do this. (that is facing her) Coming from the side or from behind is startling to a girl.  Remember you’re bigger and stronger, and she’s been fed all of this negative information about strange men.

When I devise an opener, I put myself in the girl’s shoes.  If I approach her – what can happen?  What will she be thinking?  In a negative light, and in a positive light?

Step #4 – Why doesn’t the guy say Hello, Hi, or Hey?

The guy doesn’t introduce himself, because that triggers a scripted response.  She goes on autopilot.

We want to stop the girl from going on autopilot and giving us default answers.  When you say “Hi” – she knows what to do to shut you down.  It’s not even conscious.  She’s “triggered”.  She goes on autopilot, the same way you go out autopilot when some dude on the street tries to sell you a mixtape.  (Odd how women respond to similar stimuli just like men)

Step #8 – He doesn’t explain, he lets it dawn on her.

This is what “opens” the chick.

So recap

1. Put yourself in her shoes when it comes to the approach.
2. Put yourself in her mind when it comes to what she thinks about, and how she thinks about it – when it comes to the content of what you’re going to say.
3. Does it show mastery of her world?

-Archie

We’ll get back to the comedy at some point.  Book 1 is still coming along.

This is Lessons from the Screen Play – a very good non-game source of game material.   Again, a point I will belabor – is that game is applied psychology.  So anything that tells you how the mind works, what the mind responds to, is uber useful when it comes to talking to the ladies and making connections.

The video should start at 4:38, but i recommend that you watch the whole thing.

Act 2 – The Premise – What the show is about at the core.  The Pilot conveys this to the audience.

The protagonist’s life is turned upside-down when X happens, so they decide to do Y.

A high school chemistry teacher finds out that he has terminal cancer and decides to cook meth in order to make money for his family

Walt’s decision here affects who he is and what decisions he makes in Act 3 Power.

Lajos Egri – “A man whose fear is greater than his desire, or a man who has no great, all-consuming passion, or one who has patience and does not oppose, cannot be a pivotal character.”

Act 3 shows how his desires overcome his fears.

The video goes on to say

“Standing here, Walt feels a kind of power — one brought on by the absence of fear“

Any light bulbs coming on yet?

“Television is historically good at keeping its characters in a self-imposed stasis so that shows can go on for years or even decades” – Vince Gilligan

So what GAME lessons can we draw from here?

In the movie that is your life – has your fear been greater than your desire?

I know I can say yes to this one.  And like all the t-shirts say, good stuff happens when I overcome my fears.

Since I’m chopping game here – that’s the inner game piece. If you are aware that you’re stopping yourself because of fear, that can help you move forward.

What’s the external game piece here?  How do I turn these words that give me power, into words and actions that help me connect with a girl?

It’s the thrill — for once — of taking risks.

Does this sentence not hit you in your core?  When you read that sentence, your mind goes to all the times when you let fear hold you back.  And also to the pleasure of when you let go and went with it.

Imagine reworking this sentence when you have your first *real* chance to talk to a chick.   Not during the initial little chat.

Along the sequence of

1. See the girl
2. Open the girl
3. Flirt with a girl
4. Deal with her obstacles and issues

Right after this point, is when you really start to connect with a girl.

If a player gets to this point during the meet, all he needs to do is keep the vibe going, call a cab, and have the girl go to your spot to make some cupcakes late into the night.  I like to meet girls at night clubs so that we can study Psalms.

So you’ve got the girl at the martini lounge.  She’s comfortable chatting with you in the booth.  What happens next is a done deal – but here is where you break out what you learned from Breaking Bad and writing television shows.

You start talking to her about how fear holds people back.   And when they drop the fear, they can do what they really want to do.   From there, you go into the idea of how “self imposed stasis“.

You watch TV? Me too.

What shows do you like?

I like this show, well I like 95% of the show.  But it seems like every week, the main character gets into the same sort of problems. That fills out the show – but it’s like the character keeps himself stuck in a rut.  If he would only change a bit…

So rather than the regular Bible session you have lined up with the chick – if she likes what you’re saying here, if you can draw her out, if she can give you examples of how fear held her back, how she feels like she’s keeping her own self down – and then how she didn’t succumb to fear…and how YOU can help her get past some of her fears …

Ask yourself how that Bible Study is going to go now, when she’s not only ready on a physical level, but you’ve made it okay for her to dig really deep and show more of herself because she’s no longer afraid?

The old school game of the 90’s/early 00’s was less efficient than what Mystery came up with, and not nearly as efficient as what we can do to day.  But a whole lot of old game focused on taking a chick “deeper”.

So that’s how you use Walter White in your game.  You know that his character was this nebbish guy getting pushed around.  He found himself in dire straits, and he did something about it.  He let go of his fear.   And teaching a girl how to let go of her fears, and to do what she really wants – that’s a key to making a better connection.

-Archie

Let’s just get right in to it.

So on the thread, the homie Comte is talking about the latest Dave Chappelle specials.  I didn’t realize I had an international audience, but Dave Chappelle is a Black American comedian noted for his general humor and his particular take on Western/American culture.

Comte is endorsing the the idea that Humor is a valuable lesson in the game.  There are some obvious push backs (look @ the wives of the top comedians out there – and generally they aren’t that attractive.  But same goes for most billionaires)

But I do think humor is very important to the game.  The easy reasons are 1) making the girl laugh is important, 2) making yourself laugh is also important.

Humor though?  Humor, in my terms, is about frame control.  The way a joke works is that you give the audience a believable premise, an honest premise, something that they know.   And you establish the premise.  But they know and you know that the SUBVERSION of the premise is coming.  There is some truth about what you’re going to illuminate for them.

But the audience accepting your premise is really accepting your view of the world.  When a comedian steps on stage, they can set up HORRIBLE premises – but the fact that he is a comedian – lets the audience just “Go With It”.

Let’s put some vids up.

 

 

For you guys really trying to expand your game in a deep way – you need to take in the RSD stuff (Who I love.  Don’t get me wrong.  Shout to them boys), but also these bigger more MAINSTREAM type videos.  Nerdwriter, and Charisma on Command are great – and they will get you to think about game the way that I do.

That game is advanced socialization.  That game is understanding how people think and feel, and then how they behave.  That then leads you to apply psychology because you know what is truly motivating people.

-Archie

This is an impromptu post – one that I couldn’t really add to the thread.

On the top level, this blog is about GAME.  But you guys know that I think game is merely applied psychology.  Things I do in the romantic arena, I often grab from everyplace else.

After a while you start to see patterns.

This is Scott Adams – he’s a conservative guy that draws Dilbert.  He predicted the current presidential election.

This isn’t a profile, or somebody in the press who clearly got it wrong trying to figure out how Adams was able to see the writing on the wall – it’s a hatchet job, a character assassination.  Something that women often do to other women with little remarks here and there.  I had an ex that knew exactly what obviously true thing to comment on, such that the recipient was made to feel low.

Let me be clear – I think Adams may be right on the psychological opinions, but my politics are not his nor 45’s.  I’m not sure how folks can come to a site named after West Indian Archie and think otherwise.

Let’s start with the title

How Scott Adams Got Hypnotized by Trump

The key word here is *hypnotized* .  If you’ve read Adams’s take on Trump, Adams’s basically says that Trump was using a lot of actual psychological techniques – and that was a large part of how he was able to win the Republican Nomination.  Trump, according to Adams, was using hypnosis at a grand level.

The author here basically subverts Adams’ argument and says that HE, Adams, got hypnotized.

Why?  Because most people 1) don’t believe hypnosis is real, and more importantly, 2) only dumb people get hypnotized.

Scott Adams, the millionaire creator of the office-humor comic strip

Millionaire – again, the author is using true traits to describe Adam’s, but these traits have CONNOTATIONS.  Without spelling it out, she hits on the idea that “Of course a millionaire is going to support another millionaire.”

a fellow “Master Wizard,” Adams’s term for experts in hypnosis and persuasion.

Master Wizard is in quotes because that’s what the style of newspaper journalism dictates – but again – using the quotes draws your eye and make syo generate ideas consciously and subconsciously.   This mf’er think’s he’s a wizard.

With about 10,000 readers on a good day, Adams’s blog had a fraction of the audience of his cartoon…

Oh, he only gets traffic on a good day.  I would kill for 10,000 readers.  That’s a ton of people.

But in the digital sphere, Adams was able to indulge his more outré interests and theories.

The key words here are “indulge” and “outré” .  Indulge has connotations of the negative, and “outré” – you don’t need to know French to understand that these are “not mainstream”.

At a time when virtually the entire professional political class was convinced Trump would self-immolate, Adams’s essay reframed his actions as the deliberate work of a political savant.

Here it is again, Adams is on the outer fringe and wrong about 45.  This isn’t neutral.

making himself indispensable as one of Trump’s most appreciative interpreters

He was using Trump for his own ends.

he wasn’t endorsing Trump, just doing his part to help the public better read a misunderstood candidate

He’s “redeemable” in the voice of the mainstream.

Getting a comic strip, even one as occasionally edgy as Dilbert, into family newspapers requires observing a certain set of norms. Adams’s viral analyses of Trump introduced many people, including me, to his more unusual fixations. Between political ponderings, he blogged about fitness and seduction, posting photos of his abs and writing a series of essays on how to deploy hypnosis and persuasion for better orgasms. “My language skills activate your sex drive, and you know it,” he wrote at one point. So-called men’s rights activists became vocal fans. I was just baffled

Norms vs Unusual Fixations – sets up the Us vs Him dynamic

Offering up game as something to be ridiculed. (I understand it)

MRA’s are media codewords, a “dog-whistle” if you will.

“I was just baffled”  – It’s not so much that the author was baffled by what Adams is saying, but that his world view does not comport with the rest of the world.

So what happens when the Author meets this strange guy?

He turned out to be soft-spoken and friendly.

Author expected him to be loud and antagonistic. (the exact sort of person that could invite a reporter to his house).  Author emphasizes this to the audience, because Author wants them to approach Scott the way the Author does.

At almost 60, Adams conveyed the energy of a teenage boy. Short and wiry, with thinning, close-cropped hair,

The NY Times is famous for doing this.  Including these personal details, these physical descriptions, so that you can discount what someone is saying.  The teenage boy crack again builds the underlying background of a “man boy” with “man boy” opinions.  The “thinning” hair helps to de-virilize the man.

This ones a bit more subtle -but speaks to a certain segment of the audience

After offering me coffee, he opened a can of coconut water and sat on a tall stool at the island in his kitchen.

The way that some will read this is that he was polite.  The way that the Author wants you to read this is that he could have also offered Coconut Water, but instead he keeps the “good stuff” to himself.  Further “sat on a tall stool” – implying that he was looking down on the Author.  Where did the author sit?  Why is his the only position mentioned?

Adams’s house is a shrine to the cartoon character that made him rich.

Let’s make this 60 year old man, artist, into a rich man child.

structure is full of indulgent quirks

Indulgent and quirks – This guys is rich and immature.

he transformed a bar area (Adams doesn’t drink…

Because immature boys don’t drink.\

where his ex-wife (now Adams’s personal assistant) used to host spa days for friends

What an interesting little detail right?  What kind of picture are we drawing of Adams?

Can we take a swipe at The Game real quick?

a signed copy of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, a book of strategies for seducing women. (Adams said he hadn’t read it.)

But the Author makes it a point to say that he owns a copy.  A signed copy at that

Why exactly are we interested in this aspect of a man that predicted 45’s election?  The author makes it clear.

When I visited, Adams’s girlfriend of three months, Kristina Basham, was living with him, along with her two daughters. She’s 28. Until recently, she maintained a website that showed her posing in a bikini, described as a model and baker, with a D cup size.

So in sequence, we had reference to the Ex Wife, now his implied suffering personal assistant.  He has a copy of the Game.  His girlfriend has merely been with him for 3 months.

Props to Scott though, this chick is really attractive.  She may be trying to play him, but there are younger millionaires out there. Even some who have no problem with her single motherhood.

 

But she has 2 daughters!  And she’s only 28 (a. he’s robbing the cradle, b. she has two daughters to feed).

“Until Recently” – so something just ended.

“In a bikini…D Cup size” – she’s a bimbo, gold digger.

So the author then describes some good internet marketing and a new way to get on in this economy. (it’s the same thing Cal Newport and others are promoting)

“The idea of a talent stack is that you can combine ordinary skills until you have enough of the right kind to be extraordinary,” he wrote. “You don’t have to be the best in the world at any one thing. All you need to succeed is to be good at a number of skills that fit well together.”

This is great advice.   So how does the author undercut it?

Basham, he noted, was smart, knew model tricks about posing and makeup, and used social media hacks such as SEO and A/B testing. (“For example, although her Instagram photos are G-rated, any hint of side-boob adds at least 10% to her engagement.”)

Adams takes this gold digger, that he’s too old for, that he’s too dumb to see through – and then the Author focuses on the most prurient detail.

Here’s a salient point that somehow the Author decided to include, despite the general hatchet job here – or maybe the Author includes it to make Adams look delusional

“I’m not much of an artist, not much of a business expert, and my writing skills are mostly self-taught,” Adams wrote. “I’m funny, but not the funniest person in my town. The reason I can succeed without any world-class skills is that my talent stack is so well-designed.” Trump’s stack, he continued, was powerful. “He isn’t the best communicator in the world, but he is very good. He doesn’t know as much about politics as career politicians do, but apparently he knows enough. He isn’t the smartest person who ever ran for office, but he’s very smart. He might not be the best business strategist in the world, but he certainly knows his stuff

What about this Gold Digger underlying message

Basham had recently persuaded Adams to take a trip to London and Zurich—the first time he’d ever traveled beyond Canada and Mexico. “I don’t like being uncomfortable,” he said, “and travel is uncomfortable.”

The gold digger gets him to take trips to places that we know are expensive.  And because he’s a man boy, he rarely travels.

Then the author decides to showcase one of his side businesses

To demonstrate the product, he showed me a timeline he’d made featuring Victoria’s Secret models.

Is Adams a perv?

“I don’t know how you get a stomach like that, except through lots of situps and not eating,” he said, admiring one of the women.

The picture is being painted.

Why is he like this?

As a child, Adams lived in the town of Windham, N.Y., with two siblings. “I’d say we grew up in a family where no one ever hugged,

Oh, let’s get Freudian!  So where did this fascination with hypnosis start? Picking up the thread from the beginning of the article – before we established that his rich man-boy, with a suffering ex wife, and a young gold digger single wife he only knows how to use her looks for money.

His mom also got him interested in hypnosis. “She gave birth to my younger sister while under hypnosis,” Adams told me.

Can we some how downplay is accomplishments and also make him look pervy?

After graduating as valedictorian of his 40-person high school class, Adams enrolled at Hartwick College in central New York, which he said he chose largely because it had a nursing school and thus more women than men

Mission accomplished!

Wait is there something else we can do to make this guy look horrible?

At both the bank and the phone company, Adams has said, his professional advancement was thwarted by diversity hires. “There was no hope for another generic white male to get promoted any time soon

Later in the book, he noted that his Dilbert TV show was canceled after “the network made a strategic decision to focus on shows with African-American actors

He’s a racist!  Though that’s not what we talked about when I spoke to him, it’s what he said in his book.  I mean, there are his words – I just didn’t confront him about them when I was face to face with him. So let’s finish up the character assassination.

Starting in the late ’90s, Adams also launched a line of vitamin-infused vegan microwave burritos called Dilberitos, which were discontinued after a few years, and two restaurants, which went belly-up

He also wrote two religion-themed novellas, published in 2001 and 2004, which, he told me, will be his ultimate legacy—not Dilbert.

Hmm, he was behind a cockamamie product that would probably get funding today?  And he’s a religious nut?

Hmm, what else can I check off the list.  Immature, Racists, Rich, Dumb, Religious?

he second novella, a follow-up titled The Religion War, describes a civilizational conflict in 2040 between a violent caliphate in the Middle East and a Christian alliance in the West. The hard-nosed hero builds a wall around the jihadists and “essentially kills everybody there,” Adams told me. “I have to be careful, because I’m talking about something pretty close to genocide, so I’m not saying I prefer it, I’m saying I predict it.”

Adams isn’t doing himself any favors here.  He might be the Alex Jones of the cartoon game. But the Author is able to uncover but also report what Adams’s says himself.

Can we rehabilitate him so it doesn’t look like a full on hatchet piece?

until in 2005 he suddenly lost the ability to talk with other people. The mysterious condition is known as voice dystonia.

Damn that’s kinda messed up.  But…

“Losing the ability to speak made me feel like a ghost. It was incredibly lonely.” The inexplicable condition, which doctors attributed to a possible mental condition, persisted for three years.

Oh, you want me to think he’s crazy.

If crazy is not good enough, maybe it’s something else

Pastis says, is that Adams simply craves attention. “Cartoonists are addicted to reaction. I don’t know whether Scott would admit that, but I know it’s true.”

Okay maybe he’s crazy like a fox? Here the Author makes it a point to draw parallels between the cartoon and 45.

Trump has eerie parallels to Dogbert, who consistently gets ahead at everyone else’s expense. In the ’90s, Dogbert published a fake-news-filled tabloid dedicated to denouncing enemies and promoting lies about himself…

I’d thought the point of those strips was to laugh at Dogbert’s cruelty—not celebrate it.

And the Author wraps everything else up.

So the reader comes into the article thinking that either we’re going to get into Adams’ idea that 45 is a master persuader/hypnotist – and that Adams fell under his spell.   But leaves with the idea that Adams is the clueless and also awful guy.  And mostly because Adams is hanging himself with “his own” words and actions.

This is a not-so-subtle character assassination that basically ticks off every box for things that regular dislike

1. Rich
2. Immature
3. Sexist
4. Racist
5. Super Religious
6. Anti-Muslim
7. Bad Business Guy
8. Possibly Crazy
9. Possibly Seditious

The Author is running A LOT OF GAME on US about a guy who runs game (Adam) who talked about another guy running game (45).

Now, in my view, Adams is probably all of these things that the Author describes.  Half the people I deal with online probably ticked off one of these boxes.  And that’s not GOOD.  You shouldn’t be some of these things, full stop.  But from a realistic perspective

1. Not all of that is objectively objectionable (Rich, immature, wanting to date attractive women, trying to do business, having mental illness, imagining alternative histories)
2. That cannot be the entirety of his life and his views

 

-Archie

“Being a grandfather is quite different. It’s much looser than being a parent. I don’t have to always worry about providing patterns of behavior. I just get to give her little kisses. I was allowed to borrow her this morning so we are walking through the park. It’s our personal pastime. She likes to look at the dogs and birds. Today we saw some blackbirds which was quite exciting.” (Santiago, Chile)

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Not implying Grandpa is going to die anytime soon – but one of the key differences in a short term is that you don’t need to do the work that is necessary to get the chick to behave right. (And she doesn’t need to do the necessary stuff either)

-Archie

The homie KD on the thread finds himself in familiar player territory.

• His diet game is good.
• His work out game is good.
• His clothing game is good.
• He can spot a chick that’s already down from a mile away.
• His rap has been honed
• He has good logistics

He regularly pulls chicks that he rates as cute to good looking.  But the super hot chicks, he does not regularly land those.

I think he has his the limit of cold approach.

Yeah, I said it.

I didn’t say that he hit the limit of GAME, but the limit of cold approach.

Let’s do a quick recap of cold approach.

• You look as good as you can. (diet, exercise, grooming, clothes)
• You regularly talk to chicks.
• You have your funnel on point.
• You can be funny, provocative, endearing, and all that good stuff.

So you see a chick, walk over to her, get her attention, and start interacting with her.  You have good words sometimes, sometimes your appeal is in your confidence

Sometimes it is your non-verbal…your sub-communication that does the work.

• You close the space between you and her
• You get into her space
• You break the touch barrier
• You back off before she backs off.

This is the essence of game.  And the more girls you deal with, the more you can communicate verbally and non-verbally.

Most guys aren’t going out.  Most guys that go out, don’t approach.  Of the guys that approach, most don’t have a plan.  But  you have go out, you approach, you have a plan.  Within a few months (of going out 3+ times a week), you’ll have enough experience with women that most of this stuff becomes internalized.

Then you hit the wall.

Now we’ve talked about very very attractive girls being intimidating – but most of that intimidation is in your mind.  You get over that and essentially get into your groove – these chicks fold.  They’re not used to a guy that’s really centered.

All of this basic mastery of cold approaches for one night stands with girls you meet in the night life is well established.  Everyone selling a pick up product is basically teaching you how to deal with tis.

But what about the Video Vixens?  What about the Super Models?  What about the connected club chicks in VIP?  What about the girls that you see Rock Stars and Athletes with?

There is a certain level of female that you just don’t see on the regular.  I mean see a cute face, nice set of D Cups, and some 5″ heels on any given night.   When you do see the “NFL Cheerleader” type chick – even if you can be entirely centered and run your game – there is a distance between the two of you.  She’ll gladly listen to you, encourage you or whatever – but she just doesn’t see you that way. You’re not on her radar.

On the street, this rarely happens.  A chick can think whatever she wants – but during the day time – her social reality is quite fragile.

At night though?

Even when you look the part, when you’ve got a table – her social world is one involving people of some “status”.   I don’t mean doctors or lawyers or politicians.  Not even CEO’s.   But the status that hot girls that you meet at clubs that stay in VIP –  focus on.

This girl?  She can pull a rich guy.  She can pull a pretty boy.  She can pull a tall dude. She can pull a guy with muscles.  She can pull a guy that has all of those qualities.   All the stuff you can think of, and put on paper – she can get.  She’s that beautiful. (She’s a Victoria’s Secret Model – we’re talking about beauty decided by the crowd – not decided by you.  You probably would take a Keisha Grey or an Abella Danger first)

But if that guy doesn’t have status in her world – it’s pointless.  He’s a peon, not peer, much less a superior.   It’s not that she can’t like a regular guy  per se – but a regular Jamal off the street, or at the club – he’s nobody.  He’s just some random dude.

She is just a regular girl with a massive (though mental) social barrier.

What does a girl like this crave?

She wants a higher social status.

Even though  she does crave the game – your insight into her world, into her mind, her soul – the social status is more important. Now if you can bring her up a level, and then get next to this chick, and get her to give you a chance to turn her head around – it’s game over.

BUT

Getting physically next to this chick is difficult, but that’s not enough.  Maybe you can do some push aways and disqualify yourself – so that she wonders what’s wrong with her, and why you don’t want her – but you’re still not REAL TO HER.  She doesn’t value your opinion or your insight.

But what if you were in her scene?  If you were a photographer, a fashion designer, the dj at the fashion show, the bartender at the event?

Imagine coming at that girl like you were a peer?  Like when she went out to club, you were already in VIP hanging with the big dogs?

Why does everyone know you?  Why are you special?

How come the DJ shouts your name?

So with some of these 10’s, that are socially isolated from the rest of humanity – you’re not even on the board with her until you’re a somebody.

How do you do that?

On the surface, it’s knowing a ton of people, a ton of the right people.  But in reality, it’s a ton of the right people KNOWING YOU.

What this chick is after is more than just the tangible shit.   She can get that, in spades.

She wants STATUS.  And if you have status among people that she respects, that she wants in her life – that’s when your one-on-one game can work.

Indeed, if she sees you interacting with the big wigs – you’re not cold approaching anymore.  You’re not some random stranger, you’re someone she wants to meet but doesn’t know yet.

In terms for the night game, Mystery, Brad P, them RSD boys – they’ve been talking about this on the back burner for years.   Group Theory, Merge Set, plus the new internet stuff is how you go from being cool guy in the general population of the club, to a guy that’s behind the scenes and making things happen.

Now this usually happens organically.  I definitely make it a part of my game to meet all the people that run the club – be it actual club staff, dj’s, or promoters.

General Night Club Game is real and effective.   And when you see the same faces, you hit the after hour foods spot, the after parties, maybe a summer time cook out.

To get to that 10 level – you need to start bringing value to those folks you’ve met in the night life.  For the cool guys, you throw them some girls that you’ve met.  For the girls, you throw them cool girls.  You’re trying to build a circle.  But you’re not doing it blindly.  You want to build that circle that the type of chick that you’re after wants to be in.

Why do all of this work?

Because you have to break down the social barriers and make your cold approaches WARM.

In practice this looks like you going to the same set of clubs, befriending the top dogs, and then throwing all the decent looking cute chicks at them.  Literally picking a girl and her friend up on Friday, and then going out with them Saturday – and introducing them to the guys in the good groups.

The idea is that you need to become a connector of people.  That’s how you break down the 10’s social barrier – by elevating your own social status – to be in her circle, or above it.

This is a bit esoteric, and I promise to explain more in the book – but this gives you an idea of why you can’t really connect with some of these hotties at the club.

Though you may be good looking and have good game – they aren’t hooking up with randoms.  They’re going for guys that have “status” in their eyes.  Deconstructing the status, and getting in there, is how you get them to “see you”

-Archie