One of my favorite subs on Reddit – it shows female nature (and hypergamy) in all of its unedited glory.
So let’s break this down
First – It’s important for women to define their ex-lovers as abusive.
my former relationship was, in fact, abusive due to the following reasons:
This is a key part of the strategy for them to cope with the guys they pick, and the man not being a woman.
It’s okay to be a man. And part of being masculine is stoicism. A man needed to be heartless to kill a nursing water buffalo. He needs to NOT identify with his dinner, with his enemy, in order to survive.
• My ex kept his “thoughts, feelings, hopes, and dreams to [himself] only.”
According to her, this is a bad thing.
This is what science says.
https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/why-you-shouldnt-tell-people-about-your-dreams/
https://blog.trello.com/science-backed-reasons-you-shouldnt-share-your-goals
Revealing Little as Possible
• My ex remained “silent and aloof toward [me], revealing as little as possible.”
This is a problem for chicks, but we all know that when you let a chick see the wizard behind the curtain – it hurts the relationship long term.
FD on the topic
FD ain’t no Red Piller, playa mack, by any stretch of the imagination – but they really do not want to know, do not know how to handle it, and will punish guys for doing so.
• My ex repeatedly stonewalled me after I voiced my concerns. He would disappear for days under the guise of “needing space”. Upon coming back, my concerns were never discussed or resolved.
My man! Sometimes you gotta walk away before the chick pushes you, or the relationship to the point of no return.
All of this is gold. (and keep in mind, we don’t now why they broke up, but this relationship maintenance behavior cuts both ways.)
My ex knew how to create an illusion of intimacy, sharing things that held little to no emotional importance to him. Withholding information was his way of:
• Maintaining the upper hand (control) in our relationship.
• Ensuring he stayed unattached, potentially a defense mechanism against real or perceived separation/rejection.
• Ensuring little to no emotional turmoil (shame, guilt) for abandoning me during, before, and after conflict.
• Avoiding accountability for his mistreatment.
If that’s how she sees it.
But analyzing these things makes the young player realize what she wants.
I’m not even sure what “upper hand” in the relationship means. It’s not like these chicks don’t have their own lives, their own jobs, their own money.
And what does attachment mean? I’m here ain’t I.
But this key line here – she wants you to feel bad for abandoning her in times of conflict.
Ensuring little to no emotional turmoil (shame, guilt) for abandoning me during, before, and after conflict.
99 times out of 100, she has some issue with what he’s doing. Whereas the 100 things that she does, he never says a word.
And if he does? He’s controlling and abusive.
-Archie
The funny thing is, women talk about this mess, but it still works. got two heaux rn that i’m basically doing this with. everytime they say “you never tell me anything” or “you never open up”, i know I’m doing somehing right
Exactly. Communication is a 1 way street.
She want you to communicate, but you can never get her to agree with you and not lose the war when you have a disagreement.